What is a Bondage Spreader Bar?
Bondage spreader bars are bars that spread legs open and wide for you, they spread arms open and behind. They fall under the bondage category of kink and are great introductory toys that soon become staples in your kink bag. They are both physical and psychological enhancements in kink scenes.
Generally speaking, they are made of a solid rod that is usually carbon fiber, metal, or wood and are covered with a softer material such as PU leather, nylon or leather if the rod is abrasive to the skin. Metal spreader bars are the most popular due to their durability. Some of them are a fixed length while others are adjustable and can range in length between 12 inches to 36 inches. On each end are ankle cuffs so that you can attach them to your submissive's ankles and keep their legs from closing during intense orgasms. The cuffs are sometimes built into the bar. When they're not, you can customize and use your own. Most cuffs are made of Velcro, PU leather, or leather.
Spreader bars aren't only for legs, however. With a large enough cuff or strap, they can be used on the inner thighs, as well. You can use multiple bars to spread their ankles, thighs and even their arms! If you want to increase your options as a beginner, choose a spreader bar that has Velcro cuffs that can easily be removed and that have both ankle and wrist cuffs for a total of 4 cuffs on the bar.
How Do You Use a Sex Spreader Bar
1) Ask for permission: First, ask your partner if it's okay to try something new; don't pressure them or coerce them.
Treat it as a conversation that you're excited about and you'd like to be open to new ways of pleasuring them. If it's new for either of you, opt for Velcro cuffs that are comfortable to wear, gentle on the wrists and ankles, and easy to remove. You always want to make sure that you can quickly get them out of an uncomfortable position when in bondage!
2) Start easy and take precautions:
Ankles: The easiest way to start is with a spreader bar attached to their ankles. As far as width, start with a shorter length. Not everyone is a yogi and spreading their legs wide might feel like too much of a stretch! With their ankles held apart, you now have better access and a better view to their genitals.
Standing: If you have them standing, be aware of their balance in case they fall or try to walk. As you pleasure them, enjoy how their legs begin to quiver in ecstasy, but be aware that if they collapse during intense scenes that they cannot step forward to catch themselves! You'll need to be ready to support them if their knees buckle.
Arms: If you're using the bars on their arms you also want to make sure they have enough bloodflow and none of their limbs get numb as they wear the bars for a long time; some positions are harder than others, especially those that lift the arms above the head or cause your submissive to be on their knees for a long time. Overall, it's good practice to check in often!
What Sex Spreader Bar Options Are There
There are a lot of options to choose from. Here are some of the best to consider!
Doggy Style Spreader Bars: As mentioned before, these are pretty standard spreader bars that go over the ankles. Get them on all fours and spread those legs wide enough for you to pound them from behind!
Bondage Bar with Cuffs: Spreader bars or "bondage bars" that come with cuffs already built in are great for those who want cuffs and bars to match or for those who want a whole set and don't want to buy separate cuffs. If you already have your own cuffs that you love, consider getting a spreader bar without cuffs so you can customize and use your own!
Swiveling Spreader Bars: These bars swivel in order for your submissive to easily move around or shift positions while standing or seated. It helps if you plan on having your submissive be more active in each scene.
Leather Spreader Bars: Leather feels oh so good against the skin! For those who want to commit to high quality, serious BDSM toys that have a classic look and feel, leather is a great option! Make sure to look up how to properly care for and clean leather if you choose this option.
Wrist & Ankle Cuff Spreader Bars: These allow for more options than the 2-cuff ankle system. You can have your partner in Hogtie, Spread Eagle, Forward Fold and even an intense Doggy Style with their arms underneath them! You can also use the bar for wrists or ankles only whenever you like!
Suspension Spreader Bars: These bars are used to attach to the wrists and hold your submissive's arms up above their head. They attach to a chain or hard point in the ceiling and depending on the durability and weight rating of them, you can also suspend your submissive if you both are experienced and have previously consented to it. These bars will also have a swivel feature to allow for more movement, as well.
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